The pattern
Same fight, different night. Feeling alone in your own relationship, even when your partner's right there.
Weekly sessions haven't moved it. What you need is a concentrated couples intensive, private, therapist-led, built to actually break the cycle instead of managing it one session at a time.
The outcome
To feel united again, not just coexisting, but actually on the same side.
To leave with real clarity on where this relationship is going, together, not each of you guessing alone.
How it compares
Most couples land here after spending thousands on weekly therapy that never quite got anywhere. Sixty to ninety minutes once a week is built for maintenance, not depth, and just as something real surfaces, the session ends.
An intensive works differently because the format is different, not longer sessions, but uninterrupted time that lets the work build instead of restarting every week. That's why intensives have become the standard for couples serious about changing the pattern.
Weigh that against what staying stuck actually costs, years inside the same fight, and for some couples, eventually, separating entirely. This is for couples who'd rather do the real work once than pay a little every week for a pattern that never moves.
How the intensive unfolds
Couple Intensive
USD 2,000 per day. 6 hours, including breaks. 1, 2, or 3 days. Online or in Bali.
Six hours of focused work, paced with real breaks. Not a marathon. Multi-day formats build session to session, so the work compounds instead of restarting each week.
Step 1 — Pre Intensive
Every intensive begins with a free consult and a private workbook to map your history and goals so the work is precisely tailored to you.
Step 2 — Naming the Pattern
We slow down and name what's really happening between you, not just the fight on the surface, but the stress response underneath it, and where you likely first learned to react that way, often long before this relationship existed.
Step 3 — Uncovering the Roots
The longest part of the work. We go underneath the stress response to where it actually started, opening real pathways to healing and more choice in how you relate, not just practicing a different reaction in the moment.
Step 4 — Carrying It Home
Building the practical skills to take this new way of relating back into daily life, so it holds once you're out of the room.
Step 5 — Post Intensive
One to two weeks after your intensive, we check in together. This is where we look at what's actually holding, what's shifted since you left, and whether continued support is required.
Where to stay
Where you stay shapes how you heal
What you do between sessions matters as much as the sessions themselves. A good base lets you rest, move your body, eat well and feel cared for, without long drives or busy roads. These are the eight areas we recommend.
See the full guide
Pererenan
Calm and stylish, next to Canggu but quieter. Rice fields and a black-sand beach.
Seseh
A small coastal village with a wide beach, sunsets and very little traffic.
Umalas
Leafy and residential, between Seminyak and Canggu. Private villas and quiet lanes.
Seminyak
Polished and lively. Boutique shops, beach clubs and some of the island’s best spas.
Kedungu
Wild, green and slow. Rice fields, surf and open sky, further west.
Ubud
Lush and restorative, inland among jungle, rivers and rice terraces.
Bingin / Uluwatu
Cliffs, clear water and famous sunsets on the southern peninsula.
Sanur
Gentle and grounded, with calm water and a long, flat beachfront path.
Your Therapist
Before training as a mental health therapist, Shabnam spent close to two decades in the corporate world herself. That lived experience is what sets her apart from other therapists.
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) Level 3 Trained and Internal Family Systems (IFS) Intensive Specialist
- Certified Relational Life Therapy (RLT) Intensive Coach
- Gottman Method (Level 1 and 2)
- Brainspotting 1, 2 and Masterclass with David Grand
- Registered Counsellor with Australian Counselling Association (ACA)
Client stories
What does real change actually look like?
Hear from Andrea and Joe on their couples intensive with Shabnam. A candid conversation on what shifted in a few days that months of weekly sessions hadn't, and what it looks like to reach new depths in a relationship.
FAQs
Do we need to already be in crisis to do this?
No. Some couples come in crisis, others come to get ahead of one before it starts.
What if only one of us wants to come?
One partner ready is enough to begin the conversation about whether this fits.
How is this different from a Bali wellness retreat?
This is private, one-on-one therapy with Shabnam, not a stay at a retreat venue and not a group. Each day is six hours of focused work, paced with real breaks, using Internal Family Systems (IFS), Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Gottman and Brainspotting. You choose where you stay; the time with Shabnam is the intensive.
What happens after we go home?
You leave with a clear map of your pattern and a concrete plan, with follow-up support available if you want it.
How much does a therapy intensive in Bali cost?
The therapy is USD 1,500 a day for an individual intensive and USD 2,000 a day for couples, six hours a day including breaks, over 1, 2 or 3 days. You arrange your own travel and accommodation. Shabnam’s travel and accommodation are added to your total fee, which is confirmed after your free consultation call.
How does payment work?
Bank transfer or credit card. Payment is due within one week of the invoice date, or by the session date if the invoice is issued the day before. Sessions are used within six months of the invoice date, and fees for missed or forfeited sessions are not refundable.
What if we need to reschedule?
An intensive can be rescheduled once, with at least two weeks’ notice. A request made later than that, or missing the session without notice, means the session is forfeited and the full fee still applies. Arriving late means you keep the remaining time rather than the full session.
How do we book?
Inquire below. You’ll both join a short discovery call to confirm the format and dates before anything is charged. Sessions are booked at least two days ahead, and once a date is confirmed it is held for you.